I've been thinking lately about when Jesus was on the cross and said, "Father forgive them"... I have struggled with the forgiveness I extended to someone years ago and the recent recurrence of trauma symptoms over what was forgiven. I don't understand really. I forgave, I let go, I moved forward but I got a little too close to the old situation and before I knew it I was 10 yr old Jessica. Not good. Not good at all.
I've questioned if I forgave or if I forgave "enough" since my nightmares and feelings were back. Tonight I was reminded that Jesus extended forgiveness while still dying. He wasn't healed. He didn't feel better when he forgave. His forgiveness didn't magically fix His wound so its OK that forgiveness didn't fix mine. Its OK for me to still feel pain about those things. One day it will get better, just not now.
Tuesday, December 22, 2015
Jesus, healing, and forgiveness
Wednesday, July 15, 2015
Sexual Sin...Now that you have finally showed up...I have something to say
The post below was written in 2015, but with the Coalition of Biblical Manhood and Womanhood "Nashville Statement" on biblical sexuality that was released today, my heart screamed it needed to be shared again.
In 2015 my news feed and inbox were flooded with comments and messages from my Christian friends and acquaintances over the Supreme Court decision to legalize same sex marriage. I must say that in all my years of being their friend, I had never heard sexual sin more talked, worried, prayed, and stressed about. Most seemed certain that because of the SCOUS approval of what they deemed sexual sin; the United States, and many who I love and care for, are doomed. Their lament and public admonishment of this sexual sin has continued to be passionate, loud, and nothing short of zealous.
With each new post, part of me, honestly, most of me, feels nothing but rage. Post after post has been made about consenting adults getting married, the transgender community, or about how awful the sexual sin of homosexuality is. It is apparently so awful that God might destroy our entire nation and damn both those who are LGBTQ+ and those who support them straight to hell.
Saturday, June 27, 2015
Why I Hate Same Sex Marriage Protests
Wanna know why I hate protests against gay marriage? Aside from ridiculous reason that it should not be a reason to discriminate or hate anyone? Aside from the fact that most people who protest quote Leviticus 18:22 but care nothing about Leviticus 11:12 that says eating shellfish is also an abomination...but I digress...
Even if I agreed that same sex marriage was wrong (which I don't), the world is bigger than same sex marriage.
In 20 years of church attendance...guess how many times I have heard molestation mentioned?
NEVER
Guess how many times I have heard child abuse mentioned?
NEVER
And my girls, they are so sick from both they can never really let me love them.
They are so broken, Jesus and healing are a dream never dreamed about.
But nobody marches for them.
No one protests.
And no one makes signs about this one time your dad gave you herpes.
And I hate them.
I hate them for ignoring victims and protesting consenting adults.
My girls never consented and I am so sorry.
The church should be ashamed.
Jesus never said this was ok, and He is flipping tables at their gay marriage protest, because His children are dying.
And to my girls, to every victim of child abuse, sexual abuse, or rape I need to say...
I am so sorry, I am so deeply sorry because Sunday after Sunday I used to sit and hope someone would say something, anything to please tell your story....but it never came...because the gays are getting married and no one gives a damn that your face hurts from your latest breakout or that you have once again pushed your mother away because being alone is better than hoping God would protect you. I'm sorry you can't let your boyfriend hold you or stand the smell of ivory soap because it reminds you of your dad...
I'm sorry. I'm so very deeply sorry.
I won't be back. Not anytime soon, not until I find a place that sees past the same sex couple to the child suffering mental illness after years of physical and sexual abuse. I won't, my heart can't take being ignored anymore, but I am not the only mother of a broken child, and I pray you pause and see them, because they are being lost forever and it won't be long before they leave too.
Thursday, June 25, 2015
It's Just a Flag and Other Lies We Believe
Saturday, June 13, 2015
Why I am always in trouble in class...
Friday, May 01, 2015
Cardinal Innovations Grievance Investigation of Families First Support Services in Shelby, NC
Thursday, April 23, 2015
The Chosen
Sorry you were abandoned by your mother and beaten and raped by your father when you were five while he left your brother alone. You see, no one was praying for you. Love,
God
Sorry you have Autism and your brother does not. When your mother was pregnant with you she and others didn't pray hard enough. Perhaps they will be more diligent next time.
Love,
God
Thursday, April 16, 2015
NC Regulatory and Licensing Services Investigation of Families First Support Services in Shelby, NC
The difficulty in reporting what are well documented instances of negligence has been incredibly distressing to me, especially considering the fact that McDonalds has to display their health rating and a complaint number. Are our children not more important than a hamburger?
Monday, April 13, 2015
Tolerance Levels
As a trauma mama, I live in a completely different world than most of my friends, and many who choose to follow or friend me on social media. Though it brings me much grief, I don't even fault you for it.
It’s Not Glitter
No one warns you about how dried blood flakes and glistens like glitter that you just can’t seem to get off. No one tells you how fingerpr...
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Mud You, You see me with mud covered glasses, feel me with shaky hands, love me with missing pieces, and reach for me with broken arms....
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In my life, I have encountered: Abuse Neglect Witnessing domestic violence Molestation Sexual abuse Rape Foster care Dating violence Death ...
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I’ve recently had a painful epiphany. I’m aware of situations where my siblings and I will “find an in” on a typically strained relationship...