Emotional Resource Guarding for Child Abuse Victims

I’ve recently had a painful epiphany. I’m aware of situations where my siblings and I will “find an in” on a typically strained relationship and we hide it, we tuck it away. We don’t talk about it because if we do, our other family may ruin or take it in some way. Resource guarding. 43 years old and I never ever thought of this. 

I’m gonna go see such and such family member but I can’t tell you.

Don’t  tell such and such I’m here 

Shhhhh so they don’t know I’m talking to you.

It’s so sad and awful and gosh why do we do this.