Showing posts from May, 2016

Get Off the Sidewalk

So many times in our lives we are told to appreciate what we have and to be grateful and while that is somewhat true, it is important to understand that unhappiness exists for a reason. If we encountered a fish lying peacefully on the ground while suffocating, we would know there was something desperately wrong with that picture. Fish need water. A fish without water should not be content. Over the past few months I have learned that you can appreciate what you have while aching for what is still missing. The fish can appreciate being alive while understanding that without water it will soon die. We can be grateful for a place to sleep while knowing that if we do not eat we will starve to death. We can be grateful for snow and understand that we need clothing to keep us warm while enjoying it's presence. The presence of one does not negate the absence of the other. Don't spend your time trying to make yourself feel happy about a situation that deep down you know isn't ri

Monsters Aren't Suddenly Sneaking Into Bathrooms

It seems everyone is in a tizzy these days over bathroom safty. Many are telling everyone to chill out, but I have to disagree. We do not need to chill out about bathroom safety, predators, or protecting children. What we absolutely must do is open our eyes to the real danger. The danger does not lie with the transgender person just trying to use the bathroom...for the most part, sexual abuse isn't happening in a public restroom at all. Statistics are very clear...It is heterosexual males who are the primary predators; and it isnt happening is some random place... It is happening in your home. It is happening at your child's friend's house. It is happening at school or church in the hands of someone you trust. The real danger is not an unknown monster trying to sneak into a bathroom... They are the male neighbor who is always so helpful with your little ones. They are the teacher who keeps them after school. They are the favorite uncle. They are the older c

See Me

I watched an episode of Grey's Anatomy once that stays in my mind. There was this guy in ICU. When they brought in his wife and she saw his condition, she froze. The man she was looking at was nothing like the man she knew as her husband. The doctor looks at her and says, "I know all you see now is damage and machines, but he's still there." Wow. The Dr. said exactly what I most times want to scream! I know when you look at me, all you see is damage, but I'm still here. I'm still here. I am the same one who once made you laugh and smile. I am the one who organizes her food before she eats it and startles when you walk into a room. I am the one who writes sad stories but is always hopeful. I am the dreamer, the lover, the compassionate one who cries over hairless dogs and people I'll never meet. I am here. Jessica Lynn 

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Minority Victims of Placement Instability in the Foster Care System

Minority Victims of Placement Instability in the Child Welfare System           Placement instability transcends culture, country, and systems of care with the only consistent mitigating factor being race (Tregeagle & Hamill, 2011). Foster, Hillemeier, and Bai (2011) found that black children represented 34% of the children in the foster care system despite the fact that they represent only 15% of the general population though the reasons are not entirely known. Not only are Black children over represented in the foster care population, they are moved more frequently than their White counterparts irrespective of any other factors (Foster et al., 2011). The foster care system is well known to fail the children that it serves, further exacerbating the fact that the Black children who are overrepresented pay more than other groups of children. The Disparity of the Numbers of Minority Children in Foster Care           The Child Welfare Information Gateway (2015) gives an overvie

The Need for Advocacy for Adolescents with Mental Illness

The Need for Advocacy for Adolescents with Mental Illness           Despite the fact that mental illness is one of the top five causes of morbidity, mortality, and disability for adolescents, those suffering from mental illness continue to go without the treatment they so desperately need (Dolan, Fine, & The Committee On Pediatric Emergency Medicine, 2011). Adolescents have special needs that are specific to their age group that are not easily understood by the general public. In addition to that there is a lack of recognition of adolescent mental health needs that leads to under identification (Jenson et al., 2011). Because adolescents do not have a voice and are dependent on others for their care, it is vital that they have an advocate (Hohenhaus, 2005). A mental health advocate can be the bridge over the mental health care gap so many adolescents fall into. Overview of Adolescent Mental Illness           In order to understand why having an advocate is necessary, it is im