Showing posts from July, 2016

Jaundiced Baby Contradictions

I was talking to a precious friend just now and said something that I need to repeat. Maybe it will help some of you understand why I am so distressed when my daughter is gone and getting the technical things she needs. When a baby is born and experiences jaundice, they must be placed under special lights and are not allowed to be held or comforted even by their moms. Being away from mom is what the baby needs. The mom cannot provide the level of care necessary to help their baby survive. But in that case, NO one ever suggests the mom abandon their child since they can't meet their needs!!!!! No one tells them that since they can't bring them home they must go into foster care and have the parents rights removed. No one even considers this idea because they know how vital Mama is. If the provider told the Mom her child needed special lights to live and the only way to get those lights would be abandonment, the mom would walk away much the same as Moses' Mama did. My ch

Dear Hillary...From a Broken Hearted Mama Failed by a Broken System

Dear Hillary, My child suffers from severe and chronic mental illness. Her life before me was full of so much trauma that despite being adopted into a stable home with a loving mother, she has continued to succumb to the mental illness monsters her parents birthed in her broken mind. Reactive Attachment Disorder, Conduct Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Intermittent Explosive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety and Depression; these are the monsters we fight daily. I have spent the last few days hearing your story, recognizing how time after time you went into the darkest of places to help those no one could see. To be honest because of your pro-choice stance I have never been a supporter, but I realized tonight as I finished another blog post telling the tragedy that is my daughter's story that you are the only candidate who has shown a history and dedication to changing the circumstances that my family is torn apart over. My family needs you . Children with mental i

To My Fellow White People

To My Fellow White people, As the Black community and others spend today, and tomorrow, and however long they need grieving two more senseless murders of black men and raging against a society that allows it to continue, your first response will most likely be defensive..."But I'm not racist," "The man had a gun," doesn't matter. I am begging you to please resist that response. Please. I know many of you. I see your heart. I believe that it is well intentioned and good but it isn't about you and your heart, or me and mine. We aren't the ones being killed. Please be an ally and advocate or be still. Please share their stories and join them in their protests. Please. Your continued refusal to see beyond your own personal experiences to very clear facts, figures, and statistics allows for an atmosphere where ignorance prevails and people die. #altonsterling #philandocastile #blacklivesmatter

White Privilege

I am an adoptive parent of a very violent young woman (now 18) with severe mental illness. While she has not lived at home for some time now (due to safety for my other children and pets), I am still her mom. I still do everything for her, meetings, appointments, etc...I just do so with multiple staff members from whatever facility she is in at the time. Sadly, even the many protections offered by group homes, residential facilities, and locked down schools are not enough. She still manages to run away, to seriously harm herself and others (including animals), to threaten, cause chaos, and otherwise be a danger to herself and the community. Last week alone she stabbed herself twice, ran away multiple times, spent 2 hours in a parking lot with group home staff and several police officers refusing to get in the car and return to the group home. Having police show up is normal. Despite all of those interactions, my child is alive. The police always treat her gently, even when she is b